My 3 yr old son is very jealous of my 2 month old son and i have been trying to give him lots of attention, take him out to the park and chucky cheese...tell him his lil brother loves him..etc. but yet he is very jealous and will try to hit the baby or call him stupid..what should i dooo?|||It is very common for children to be jealous of the newborn. He was the center of your world for 3 years and now he has to share mommy. He is feeling powerless. Make sure you take time everyday to show you're love. When baby is sleeping, read him a story, do an art project (make a Froot Loop necklace), have him help you make a snack or dinner, and things that show he is the "big boy" (he can help mommy make dinner, help with the baby...getting a diaper, let him pick out baby's outfit...). When he is aggressive to the baby, be overly dramatic about it. Rush to the baby and pick him up. Empathize. “Ouch! That must have hurt! Let me give you some kisses to help you feel better.” Shut you son out. He will not like the feeling of being left out. If he continues, get down to his level and say “Don’t hurt your brother.” Take him gently to an area away from the baby (his room, the couch) and say “When you are ready to be gentle then you can come back with us. This is not a time out because you are not giving him a time limit (you controlling him). He returns when HE is ready to control himself. Empathize with you son when he is calm. “I can tell you are feeling (hurt, angry, left-out, frustrated, mad). How can I help you with that?” He will learn to express his feeling rather than be aggressive. Help him to gain confidence by saying things like "You did that by yourself. Look how high you can climb! You used so many colors on your picture!" Let him know that you notice him. This is a great way to show attention and love and help his to feel powerful in a positive way. Tell him that he is so lucky because he is a big brother (maybe even get him a big brother shirt). He can do so much more than a baby because he is older. If he keeps getting messages like these, he should start to feel more confident in his new world. Best of luck to you!|||try explaining to him the up of having a new baby brother. unfortunately, he is at the age where that is to be expected. he just feels a little left out and doesn't want to share mommy. just be patient and it will all work out. good luck|||It's absolutely normal. He just needs time to understand you love both of your children. When he will be older he will understand on his own that loving a a person doesn't mean not loving other people. The heart of a mother (and generally speaking the heart of every people) is big and can contain a lot of love and give it to many people and not just to one. In the meantime you should try to cuddle your oldest son more, so he will be convinced about your love.|||Make a big fuss over how important he is as the "Big Brother". My oldest daughter was a little jealous of her baby sister until I told her that as the big sister, she's going to be baby's hero one day! Baby will want to do everything just like her, so it's important to protect and care for her. It also helps if friends and relatives congratulate him on his new role. I asked them to please remember her when bringing gifts for the baby. Often times, people inadvertently step on the older child in their excitement to see the new bundle. No one likes to feel like that! Enlist his help in caring for his new brother and let him know that you just don't know what you'd do if he wasn't there to help you. If you can get him more involved, maybe his feelings will change. Good luck!|||it what they call sibling rivalry they usually out grow it have him help doing thing for the babylet him play the big brother role|||give him a treat!|||I used to be really jealous of my sis when I was two and she was newly-born. My mom just sat me down, told me it was my duty to teach my sis everything she had to know. We still fought, but at least I felt this sense of responsibility over her, so in the end, I was pretty much the only person bullying her (I never allowed anyone else to), though I didn't do anything too terrible. OK fine, so I made her cry 2 hours straight when I hid her colour pencils, but that was the worst. They'll understand it, in their own kiddish way.|||Jealousy is a natural behavior and 3 yr olds are renowed for it and yes I have a 3 yr old . He will out grow it and when he turns 4 he will become your little helper. In the meantime just watch him around the baby,he may hurt it out of jealousy. Dont be too harsh on him as a 3 yr old doesnt understand reasoning.|||You are doing a good job, i would keep doing what you are. He will come around. Spend a lot of one on one time with him. But also let him help with his little brother, so that he gets a chance to bond with him.|||He's 3 years old. Think of how many things that you have thought since you were a child and have since forgotten. Just love him. Dont let him control you with that. It has become an effective tool for him to get goodies. Just love him and hang in there. YOu are the parent, you lead, its like dancing. Take the lead.|||give him as much attention as you do they other if not more because he thinks he's loosing his mama and he's feeling lonely or less than the other.it's happened to alot of people..just tell him even if he doesnt understand.and when you do things with the baby tell him why you have to and so on..give him more attention..he's jealous.ok i just realyour details.. ok..you might wanna see if you have an a.d.d in your family.or a.d.h.d that might make him act like that.. if he does than it's hard to control and he has to act like that.he doesnt know whats better to do than do that..also it is normal for 3or 4yr olds to say those words. and have faises like that..but you might wanna check to see if he has anything like a.d.d in him.which will help you. :)|||ask him to be with the baby all the time...such as ask him to join together to play with lil brother, always tell him to love the baby, always tell him, that mum & dad love his baby & him too much....always ..n ....always say u love him & HIS LIL BROTHER so much.....

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